difficult divorce

Getting a divorce is a difficult time of your life even when you and your spouse get along well. But if your spouse is abusive, seeking a divorce is both more necessary and more difficult. Though working with an experienced California family law attorney can help you file for divorce and get into a better living situation faster, it’s just the first step. Here are a few tips to help you navigate the process of divorcing an abusive spouse more easily.

Consider Your Safety First

Abuse takes many forms and physical violence against you is typically the greatest threat to your safety. As you’re figuring out what to do, consider your safety first. If your spouse is emotionally manipulative or verbally abusive, you may have more time to set your plan in motion. But if your spouse is physically abusive, your safety is at risk and you’ll need to get to a safe and secure place immediately. 

Close friends and family members may be willing to offer you a safe place to stay. If they can’t or won’t for any reason, you may want to contact a domestic abuse hotline. These hotlines can help you find a safe place to stay. 

Take Your Children With You

Once you find a safe place to stay, be sure to take your kids with you. Though many abusive spouses may not take their aggression out on the kids, there’s always a risk that they could get hurt. Even if physical abuse isn’t a threat, your spouse may try to turn the children against you or spread lies that tarnish your reputation. Even if they don’t succeed, this can put a lot of emotional strain on your kids. By separating them from the situation entirely, they may be better off. 

Don’t Hesitate to Speak With the Police

If you truly believe your safety or the safety of your children is at risk, don’t hesitate to speak with the police. They’ll be able to document anything that’s happened and may be able to protect you at least temporarily. Any police reports filed may also help bolster the strength of your divorce case and could help you receive a restraining order against your spouse.

The police may also be able to direct you to certain community resources to help you regain a sense of normalcy as you separate yourself from your abuser. 

Speak With California Family Law Attorney A.S.A.P.

As soon as you start to consider divorce as a viable option, you’ll want to reach out to a California family law attorney who can represent your case in court. They’ll be able to help with all aspects of your divorce from filing the initial petition to helping you establish an appropriate custody agreement.

Schedule a Consultation

If you’re currently in an abusive relationship and are ready to consider divorcing your spouse so you can live a happier, healthier life, don’t wait. Contact Jackman Law today to schedule a free consultation. Our experienced team will help you understand your options so you can make the right decision for yourself and your family.